Monthly Archives: October 2015

Headfirst Slide Into Umlazi Township On A Bad Bet

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Taking Las Vegas Home may have been about a lover or an ex lover who’s struggling to grasp the possibilities of his or her lover finding someone better than him or her, someone to have something “more” with, someone who’s gonna love their lover better than they ever did…

They don’t know if it’s possible since their love for the person was or is or seems so unrivaled… Trying hard, still, they can’t see why either of them should look elsewhere for what they already had…

Didn’t I take you to… higher places, you can’t reach without me?

But what if we took a darker approach to the situation, what if the heartbreaker is so twisted that they say such words not out of their great undying love for the person but as an attempt to manipulate their heartbroken lover into putting up with the toxic relationship… Trying to make them believe that they can’t get anything better than what they’re giving them… No one’s ever gonna love you more than I do… the words go… the song knows… the song goes…

It’s looking like a limb torn off

Or altogether just, taken apart

We’re reeling through an endless fall

We are the ever-living ghost of what once was

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Once reworked by Cee Lo Green for his 3rd studio album conveniently titled Lady Killer, “No One’s Gonna Love You” was originally done by The Band Of Horses for their second album Cease To Begin.

Yes, before Eminem’s “Love The Way You Lie” or Rihanna’s “We Found Love” video, we had the “No One’s Gonna Love You” video accompanying Cee Lo Green’s rendition of the song. In a nutshell, all three videos are basically one and the same thing. Assuming you’ve seen at least one of the three, I don’t need to focus on the actual happenings of the video but the song itself…

Unfortunately most of us at some point in our lives find ourselves in a relationship where we have to deal with a heart that wasn’t broken by us… As we can all mull about the challenges that come with such a relationship, let’s rather attempt to delve deep into the mind of the person who perhaps is responsible for breaking the heart.

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Getting into your first ever serious relationship, you often hope it will last forever, as you invest your all into the love, disappointment teaches you otherwise…

But someone

They could’ve warned you

When things start splitting at the seams and now

The whole thing’s tumbling down

After the first relationship, you go into the next relationship, aware of the disappointment that may follow, making you somewhat hold back a bit of yourself… In some cases, most of yourself… You become, the everliving ghost of what once was… No more bright eyes and a bushy tail…

No one’s gonna love you more than I do

Aware of what he/she has done, the heartbreaker feels that the ex lover is less likely to walk into another relationship as fearlessly and as wholly as they did with them… That no one, will ever get to see how much of a lover they once were, unbruised, uncurled… unbetrayed…

Or so they think

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Taking Las Vegas Home

those places

This song brings me so much quiet joy, it defeats me with happiness, it smothers me with wonder, it kills me with our truth. Defeated by our intentions, we curl up once more.

So many songs are about looking for love in all the wrong places… finding it in hopeless places, it doesn’t have to be a physical place but a state of mind we may or may not share.

So many people meet in loud places… parties… clubs… though the vibe seems to be the same in all or most of these places, the people aren’t always… Nor are their intentions…

 

I go to loud places

To search for someone, to be quiet with

Who will take me home

You go to loud place

To find someone who

Will take you higher than I took you

 

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Intentions were never the same, with a facade here and there, the relationship blossomed… with every second… minute… hour… days piling up, down comes the facade. Stranded in love all by herself, it’s clear that it wasn’t meant to be… but still, her heart clings to what she thought she had… what would’ve been…

 

I go to those places

Where we used to go

They seem so quiet now

I’m here, all alone

You go to new places

With I don’t know who

And I don’t know how

To follow you

 

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We want it, we go out of our way for it, but how would we know where or when to search for it when we don’t really know where or when it was lost.

Was it ever there? Will it ever be?

They say the worst part of ending is starting again, but does it ever end?

Chasing an unknown high, we keep chasing… To start something that we hope will be better than the last, something that will get us higher than our last fix…

 

You’re in ecstasy, without me

When you come down

I won’t be around…

 

Her grip… she weakens…

 


Countless Undercover Lovers

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I’ve been roaming around always looking down at all I see

Painted faces fill the places I can reach

You know that I could use somebody

 

I’ve always mentioned how we as humans are spiritual, emotional beings before we are anything else. Yes, we are feelers, if we feel it, it doesn’t have to make sense in any spoken language. Someone Like You by Adele is certainly one of the biggest songs released within the last ten years, yea, there’s no debating that. The world couldn’t help but feel and connect with it.

Musically Someone Like You is up to standard… personally I’ve always had a little war about the meaning of the song and it’s lyrics. “Nevermind I’ll find someone like you…“? is that really something you’d want to say to someone whom has broken year heart? if you find someone like him or her doesn’t it make them most likely to break your heart the same? Whatever happened to getting an upgrade? I don’t know… Who am I to say? Go ahead, touch that flame once more.

Someone like you and all you know and how you speak… As you can tell, all these lyrics are from “Use Somebody” by The Kings Of Leon. In a weird way this song reminds me of “Someone Like You” by Adele and vice versa. “Painted faces” in Use Somebody suggests a facade a lot of potential lovers have, how they speak, their interests… they may seem like everything you want until you really get to know them.

Amongst everything else, “Use Somebody” is about having a fixed idea of what type or kind of lover one wants and needs. Yes, so many of us can’t help but fall for the same kind of people no matter how many times that “kind” lets us down… time after time, history repeats itself on us, on our love…

 

You sit there in your heartache

waiting for some beautiful boy

To save you from your old ways

You play forgiveness

Watch it now, here he comes

He doesn’t look a thing like Jesus but he talks like a gentleman

Like you imagined when you were young

 

God is great, angels aren’t always in white with flow-y hair… When You Were Young by The Killers is perhaps about how we don’t always recognize the good that’s right in front of us.

 


Lonely Teenagers Broke Down My Groove

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After spending so much time in a relationship with someone, is it ever a good idea to part over “differences” of a sort? I’d like to think not, but truth is, we do… But why do we allow this? Hell, what are all these differences about anyway?

Through the blossoming days we are most probably aware of what we like as well as what we don’t like about each other and it is in such a conscious setting that we are able to acknowledge a problem for what it is, a problem, a situation with an expiry date on it… Something we can sort out… It is when we lose sight of who we’re with and why we’re with them that we start seeing each other as the problem as opposed to seeing the situation as the problem that the “differences” are born… That’s when what we have is stamped with an expiry date.

We as people are not temporary, situations are, problems are. It’s when we start confusing each other with the situation we may be in that we blindly throw everything into the garbage bag.

Detach     your partner from     the problem, stop trying to solve your partner, solve the situation.

 

I want so much to open your eyes

‘Cause I need you to look, into mine

 

Lionized by pop culture (esp. TV series) “Open Your Eyes” by Snow Patrol has mostly been implied to be a literal opening of the eyes of a near death (or already deceased) loved one. It has been featured in both ER as well as Grey’s Anatomy to set the theme of distress of fearing the possibility or perhaps facing the fact of not being able to look into a loved one’s eyes ever again… The disbelief…

The song has also been used to ferry it’s more figurative message as the theme for Barack Obama’s 2008 presidential campaign, perhaps suggesting that the nation should be awake and or aware of the situation, not only that but to be conscious of the necessary steps (voting for him) to help the situation the American nation may have been facing at that time.

 

Get up, get out, get away from these liars

‘Cause they don’t get your soul or your fire

Take my hand; knot your fingers through mine

And we’ll walk from this dark room for the last time

 

Words that can be applied to a personal relationship… A romantic relationship. We forget that we’re in it together, we start villainizing each other, we start blaming each other for the situation, for the space we’re in, instead of teaming our way out of that space, the dark room.

 

 

 


If You Are What You Say You Are

It was two years ago when I found myself at a Pre-Durban July Fashion Show. I knew nothing (and still don’t) about fashion nor did I arrive early enough to see the fashion show but I got there just in time to see Jeremy Loops perform live. A friend had offered me a VIP ticket and I had to take it because I had to see Jeremy Loops. Unfortunately when I finally got to meet the guy I got so excited and starstruck all at the same time that the only thing I said to him is that I love his music… In reality, this was perhaps the one chance I had to exchange a few words of wisdom with him… Nonetheless, meeting him was good… It’s an experience I wouldn’t take away.

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“Life is an interesting journey

You never know where it will take you

Peaks and valleys, twists and turns

You could get the surprise of your life

Sometimes on the way to where you’re going you might think this is the worst time of my life

But you know what? At the end of the road

Through all the adversity

If you could get to where you wanted to be, you remember;

What don’t kill you makes you stronger

And all the adversity was worth it…”

-T.I in Live Your Life

 

I keep saying it and I wont stop saying it, South Africa is home to some of the greatest musicians in the world. On this post I’ll focus on one of the younger greats to come from our country, Jeremy Loops. If you’ve been following his career you’d know that though the genius, the talent and passion were always there, his career has had exponential growth over the last few years, topping charts, winning awards, he’s been doing it and through it all he still comes across as the Earth loving, “greening” inclined young man at his 2010 conservation celebration party. As stardom comes with a significant amount of work and stress, Jeremy still manages to give fans unclouded, twenty-four carat energy not only through the music but through interaction.

“If you have a closet full of clothes and you try to keep them all, your life will get very small. But if you have a full closet and someone sees something they like, if you give it to them, the world is a better place.”- Nina Hagen to Kiedis (She realized how young and inexperienced I was then, so she was always passing on gems to me, not in a preachy way, just by seizing on opportunity -Anthony Kiedis)

Often dismissed for it’s sexual overtone, “Give It Away” by the Red Hot Chili Peppers is actually about altruistic behavior, our God-given selflessness, the spirit of giving, whether it’s something tangible or a teaching… Paying it forward. This is exactly what Jeremy Loops has done as I’m about to quote him below. We all yearn to be on journeys in which we arrive, a journey where we actually get to the destination but one can never be certain what or where the destination truly is and with family, friends and society telling us what works what doesn’t work, what’s cool, what isn’t… it gets hard to hear our deepest voice. Our gut.

“If you can be brave enough and bold enough to try what you really enjoy, I think success does follow. That’s not just a thing successful people say”- Jeremy Loops

 


My First Ever Liebster Nomination!

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Anand of blabberwockying! has nominated me for a Liebster award. It’s my first ever Liebster nomination so you can imagine, it’s a pretty big deal for me and I’d like to bad word thank him for the nomination. Anand lives in India, loving life he is an educator at heart and like any good educator he looks not only to enlighten but to be enlightened. If you’re looking for enlightenment, creative or otherwise, I highly suggest you check out and follow his blog.

 

Award Rules

  • Once you are nominated, make a post thanking and linking the person who nominated you.
  • Include the Liebster Award sticker in the post too.
  • Nominate 5 -10 other bloggers who you feel are worthy of this award. Let them know they have been nominated by commenting on one of their posts. You can also nominate the person who nominated you.
  • Lastly, COPY these rules in the post.

 

 

My Answers To Anand’s Questions

 

1. What inspires you?

People & Music

2. How do you aim to inspire others?

By being myself

3. What do you most admire in a leader?

The “Cheer” in front of “leader”… I’m kidding, I find it most admirable when a leader treats “followers” how they expect the “followers” to treat them.

4. What gives you meaning in your work?

Being part of something productive

5. What personality trait has been the most enduring and representative of you?

Patience

6. What genre of movie do you like best and how has it evolved over your adult life?

It has always been comedy, though the older I get, the greater my appreciation for documentaries gets.

7. Who is your hero?

Kurt Cobain

8. Where do you feel most at peace?

The toilet

9. What song makes you sing along out loud, and/or break into dance?

“Give It Away” by The Red Hot Chili Peppers

10. What do you want people to remember most about you after meeting you for the first time?

That I’m a lot more talkative than I appear

11. What are you most proud of?

People who continue to be selfless, not in their actions but in their way of thinking.

 

My Nominees Are:

Well I’m still an amateur in this blogging thing though I’ve been lucky enough to come across some of the most creative + intellectual minds ouchea… haha, I love using that word, it makes me feel so cool, anyway… I can’t help but find inspiration from each of their blogs, they’re most definitely worth a visit and a follow.

Committing To Life

Blabberwockying!

Storyshucker

Individualthoughts

Souldier Girl

Mental Break In Progress

Yas Niger

My Friday Blog

Snapshotsincursive

Nicholas Conley’s

 

My Questions To My Nominees:

 

  1. What keeps you going?
  2. What’s your all time favourite (commercial) song?
  3. What’s the most annoying song you can think of right now?
  4. Do you think there’s an afterlife? what’s your take on it?
  5. What do you think your next post is gonna be about, aside from a response to this nomination?
  6. What does your first name mean?
  7. What do you like most about humans in general?
  8. What practice or act makes you feel like a fuller being?

 

 


Shouldn’t Talk About It

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Like most people, I am proud of who I am, the colour of my skin as well as where I come from… I love my home city, but lets face it, it’s no secret that if ever a cool international act/artist comes to South Africa there’s but a foggy chance of them coming to my home town, Durban. It’s always Johannesburg and Cape Town. So naturally, when I first heard that Milky Chance would be heading to SA I wasn’t totally excited… Them coming to Durban was but a cloudy, milky chance… okay, I’ll stop.

This time I was in for a surprise, yea… I’m not sure why or how, but Milky Chance came to Durban.

I only started paying attention to the German folk/reggae/Electronica duo after hearing their hit number “Stolen Dance”, Which leads me to the question… how do I put it? Wait, that wasn’t the question…

Alright, I’ll just dive in.

If masturbation is sometimes referred to as a “lonely dance”, then what really is a “stolen dance”?

Now you’re probably thinking the song is about adultery, I think the same… but wait, it’s justified adultery (if there’s such). If you listen to the words in it, it appears the main character in the song is sweet talking his way out of a tight situation… Perhaps blaming loneliness for his actions of dancing with someone else (maybe he gets lonely because he and his love interest don’t get to see each other as often as they’d like)

 

I want you by my side

So that I never feel alone again…

I hope they didn’t get your mind

Your heart is too strong, anyway

 

Above, the main character is basically hoping that his love interest isn’t buying all the rumors and isn’t paying mind to all the obvious signs of him cheating… he’s hoping she’ll brush it off and follow her heart back to him.

From a different perspective, the main character on this song is but a victim of a long distance relationship, though the trust is there, he can’t help but wonder if his love interest is being as faithful as he is, if she’s enduring the pain and cold nights as he is.

 

Coldest winter for me

No sun is shining anymore

The only thing I feel is pain

Caused by absence of you

Suspense controlling my mind

I cannot find the way out of here

 

NOTE: The artwork I’ve selected illustrates how risky a “dance” a romantic relationship is, and how trust is an important building block… It’s dumb? Oh well, whatever, nevermind.