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3 Day Quote Challenge Round 2! (Day 1)

Awesome. David of Chape Personal Trainer has nominated me for a challenge I really enjoy. I’d like to thank him for the nomination and yea, we’re a few weeks from trying to start or fulfil those new year’s resolutions and if being fit and healthy is one of those resolutions or if you just need to know how not to hurt yourself in the gym or need help with an injury Chape Personal Trainer is the place to go!

Challenge’s rules:

  1. Post three consecutive days.
  2. You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3. Challenge three different bloggers per day.


Okay… I’ll try to make this as not awkward as possible… I really don’t know how to say it, so I’ll just say it… here goes;

Is it okay if I quote myself this time? Just this once? Will it be too weird? Okay.


A few years ago I was having a talk with a friend, she had passed out (fainted) earlier that day. She revealed that she had been trying out various (extreme) diets she also went on to tell me how insecure she was about her weight and how she knew what people thought of her…

It’s not just about our physical appearance, we try to fit in with the way we think, the way we speak and the things we have… We all have something, we all have someone. Unfortunately – fixated on what we think we need, we often overlook what we have.

To her I said

“The only people worth impressing are those that are already impressed”



My nominees are:





Tastes Like Not Chicken

Colour, color, nationality, race, genre, black music, white music… So many boxes… We’re boxing ourselves, each other and everything around us. Yes, there is music we can each call our own, ancestral music that isn’t praised or produced in any other part of the world but our own… But like the words I write, you can’t put ownership on feelings… Listen…

Yes, we may all have a preference on the genres or the kind of music we mostly listen to, but how society is set up, there are cool genres and not so cool genres, some of us claim to only listen to a certain or a specific genre… I’m not one of those people because, yes, you’ve guessed it, I believe music is more than style, it is more than a tone, it is more than a melody, it is more than an instrument… Music is feeling, and whatever the genre or how much you don’t like the artist, if a song catches you at the right moment, you’re caught! Feelings everywhere… Going forward, whether you admit to feeling a song or not (assuming in your world it’s a style/genre or artist not generally considered as cool) is then your laundry to air.

Comedy movies are my favourite, they’ve always been my favourite though my most favourite movie is far from being a comedy…


Starring Leleti Khumalo, Yesterday is without a doubt one of the best movies I’ve ever seen… Yes, it caught me, it pinned me down, I felt it…

The movie is basically about a wife/mother who learns that she’s HIV+ and the self-dialogue and struggles that follow.

Living at the village she stays with just her daughter as her husband works by the city as a Miner… She seems to be faithful, but we can’t say the same for her husband… He also turns out to be abusive as he beats her up when she tells him that she had just found out that she has the virus… Lonely and bruised she travels back home from the city… Time and sickness would soon relieve the husband from his denial and whisper the truth through weak, hard coughs that he perhaps did have the virus… and that he had passed it on to his wife…


Boys working on empty

Is that the kinda way to face the burning heat?

I just think about my baby

I’m so full of love I could barely eat

There’s nothing sweeter than my baby

I’d never want once from the cherry tree…


As his health gets worse, he finally returns to his wife and daughter… Some how, his wife finds it in herself to take care of him, and nurse him as she had to deal with suddenly being treated like an outsider by her stigma ruled neighbours… shunned by many she once knew as friends…


Boys, when my baby found me

I was three days on a drunken sin

I woke with her walls around me

Nothin’ in her room but an empty crib

And I was burning up a fever

I didn’t care much how long I lived

But I swear I thought I dreamed her

She never asked me once about the wrong I did


Driven by her wish to see her little daughter go to (her 1st day of) school she is in steady health, but tired of her nosey neighbours and how they were treating her and her husband for being HIV+ and the hospital not being able to accommodate her husband she builds a shack in solitude where she continues to nurse him as his health unfortunately gets worse…


My babe would never fret none

About what my hands and my body done

If the Lord don’t forgive me

I’d still have my baby and my babe would have me…


The movie is definitely about love, forgiveness and of course willpower… She had promised herself that she’d take her daughter to her 1st day of school… Then and only then will the virus be allowed to do as it pleases with her… The husband is as loving as can be towards his wife and daughter as his life slips away…


When my time comes around

Lay me gently in the cold dark Earth

No grave, can hold my body down

I’ll crawl home to her…


Song: Work Song by Hozier


Taking Las Vegas Home

those places

This song brings me so much quiet joy, it defeats me with happiness, it smothers me with wonder, it kills me with our truth. Defeated by our intentions, we curl up once more.

So many songs are about looking for love in all the wrong places… finding it in hopeless places, it doesn’t have to be a physical place but a state of mind we may or may not share.

So many people meet in loud places… parties… clubs… though the vibe seems to be the same in all or most of these places, the people aren’t always… Nor are their intentions…


I go to loud places

To search for someone, to be quiet with

Who will take me home

You go to loud place

To find someone who

Will take you higher than I took you


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Intentions were never the same, with a facade here and there, the relationship blossomed… with every second… minute… hour… days piling up, down comes the facade. Stranded in love all by herself, it’s clear that it wasn’t meant to be… but still, her heart clings to what she thought she had… what would’ve been…


I go to those places

Where we used to go

They seem so quiet now

I’m here, all alone

You go to new places

With I don’t know who

And I don’t know how

To follow you




We want it, we go out of our way for it, but how would we know where or when to search for it when we don’t really know where or when it was lost.

Was it ever there? Will it ever be?

They say the worst part of ending is starting again, but does it ever end?

Chasing an unknown high, we keep chasing… To start something that we hope will be better than the last, something that will get us higher than our last fix…


You’re in ecstasy, without me

When you come down

I won’t be around…


Her grip… she weakens…


Countless Undercover Lovers


I’ve been roaming around always looking down at all I see

Painted faces fill the places I can reach

You know that I could use somebody


I’ve always mentioned how we as humans are spiritual, emotional beings before we are anything else. Yes, we are feelers, if we feel it, it doesn’t have to make sense in any spoken language. Someone Like You by Adele is certainly one of the biggest songs released within the last ten years, yea, there’s no debating that. The world couldn’t help but feel and connect with it.

Musically Someone Like You is up to standard… personally I’ve always had a little war about the meaning of the song and it’s lyrics. “Nevermind I’ll find someone like you…“? is that really something you’d want to say to someone whom has broken year heart? if you find someone like him or her doesn’t it make them most likely to break your heart the same? Whatever happened to getting an upgrade? I don’t know… Who am I to say? Go ahead, touch that flame once more.

Someone like you and all you know and how you speak… As you can tell, all these lyrics are from “Use Somebody” by The Kings Of Leon. In a weird way this song reminds me of “Someone Like You” by Adele and vice versa. “Painted faces” in Use Somebody suggests a facade a lot of potential lovers have, how they speak, their interests… they may seem like everything you want until you really get to know them.

Amongst everything else, “Use Somebody” is about having a fixed idea of what type or kind of lover one wants and needs. Yes, so many of us can’t help but fall for the same kind of people no matter how many times that “kind” lets us down… time after time, history repeats itself on us, on our love…


You sit there in your heartache

waiting for some beautiful boy

To save you from your old ways

You play forgiveness

Watch it now, here he comes

He doesn’t look a thing like Jesus but he talks like a gentleman

Like you imagined when you were young


God is great, angels aren’t always in white with flow-y hair… When You Were Young by The Killers is perhaps about how we don’t always recognize the good that’s right in front of us.


But I Love It, But I Love It



“Three guns and one goes off

One’s empty, one’s not quick enough

One burn, one red, one grin

Search the graves while the camera spins…”

We’ve all seen it happen, some of us have been part of it.

Yes, generally it make sense for friends (whom afterall are friends because they have a number of things in common) to gravitate towards the same kind of people as far as forming romantic relationships, yet as friends it is also important to make boundaries and respect each other in those regards but sometimes those boundaries are broken and you find people dating their friend’s ex(es)…


“…Triangles are my favourite shape

Three points where two lines meet

Toe to toe

back to back

Lets go my love, it’s very late…”


Though the intentions aren’t always clear, in some cases the ex may pursue their ex’s friend(s) in hopes of making the ex jealous… sometimes (as they say) it “just happened/s”. Yes ladies and gentlemen, this is where having a “type” gets dangerous.

Does this now mean that since your ex’s friends have similar qualities as the ex, someone you fell in love with deem them (the friends) your type?

Does this now mean you have to go through all of them to find the right one? Yea it may make sense to the doer but it’s not a good look to the rest of us judges of the world… Watch us as we slowly shake our heads in judgment.

In closing, us human beings are copy cats by nature, we all carry the follow the leader mentality. With that said, we can’t help but see people how the people closest to them portray them. This is why I always say you can’t expect your lover to fully respect your family especially your parents if you don’t speak of them as if they’re royalty. Likewise you can’t expect the people around you to respect your lover if in their presence you refer to her as a whore or him a dick.

If you bad mouth him or her in front of your friends, to the frisky kind of friend it can be received as a free for all invite… A cheap piece of human they can mess with… Whether them being a whore is true or not, they’ll find themselves victim to the wrong kind of attention… As heartbreak bites and devours them a million times over…


“Bite chunks out of me

You’re a shark and I’m swimming

My heart still thumps as I bleed

And all your friends come sniffing”


A Hundred Million Cold Hearts

21 Guns video shot

21 Guns video shot

Love, Yes love
They say love is God, or is it God is love?
Wording is almost as imperfect as the bare notion of what we think love is. They say it’s cursed by monogamy, they say it is birthed with hate.
Without hate, would it exist?
Without fate does the clock know which motion to take as it waves goodbye to us mere mortals?
As the tic tickles the toc, we die trying to figure out why we’re all here.

There’s a wild wind blowing down the corner of my street
Every night there the headlights are glowing
There’s a cold war coming on the radio I heard
Baby it’s a violent world
Oh love don’t let me go…”

There’s a cold war coming, and it is us
It’s the conflicts we architect amongst ourselves
With family, best friends forever. We’re bound to feel attacked by everyone around us at some point somehow.
Baby, It’s a violent world
One that everyone yearns for a true companion to face the bombs with, to make an eternal bond with, a bond only time can break when we realize that the companion we’ve created such an intimate bond with is just as human as the world you’re fighting against.
Depending on the strength of the bond, one may decide to break off and attempt fighting the cold war alone.

Do you know what’s worth fighting for?
When it’s not worth dying for?
Does it take your breath away
And you feel yourself suffocating?
Does the pain weigh out the pride?
And you look for a place to hide
Did someone break your heart
Inside you’re in ruins”

21 Guns video shot

21 Guns video shot

Released as  GreenDay’s 2nd single from their eighth album 21st Century Breakdown “21  Guns”  Urges you and I to find something to believe in, something worth suffering for till’ the end… this being either a God or love.

21 Guns video shot

21 Guns video shot


21 Guns video shot

21 Guns video shot

Though I see it differently, the music video for this number is said to revolve around a couple that is hiding in a deserted room after robbing a bank, as the video progresses, bullets fly through the wall and somewhere along the line, the couple passionately starts kissing. How I see it, the video is a demonstration of the relationships we have with people closest to us. (ahead of bullets flying through the wall, the couple seems distance  and somewhat unsettled.) Being human means that we will have days when we aren’t so sure about our companions. (As the many bullets shoot in from outside, the couple moves closer to each other and embrace a kiss together.) Upon realizing the darkness, the coldness that looms around the world, we realize the significance of what we have with our imperfect€-perfect companion. So we hold on.

21 Guns video shot

21 Guns video shot

“Love is the strangest feeling

Oh you won’t get enough

But it won’t last forever

’til its gotten pretty rough”

“Build It Up” is a number by South African Pop/Rock band monArk, The song shot up the charts on various major radio stations, including 5FM, Jacaranda, Highveld Stereo and KFM. It defunks the perfect  mass  perception or idea of love, not with the aim to cancel valentines day but with an approach that reminds the listener of the challenges love comes with, an approach that helps us understand that one has to give a little more of their soul than commonly demonstrated (by Hollywood) to make it work.

Build It Up video shot

Build It Up video shot

“Now let your heart believe in

In what you’re living for

No winning if you never

Find a something you adore”

There are a hundred million cold hearts out there, not everyone is gonna understand/get your soul or your fire.
It takes a super human to find a beauty within the cathedrals of another’s heart, though that super human doesn’t possess actual super powers they do possess the compatibility to be one’s companion through this cold war we call life. Shout out to all the super girls €and boys we may have in our lives, not for being perfect but for allowing us not to be perfect.
I find that those that expect us to be perfect or perhaps expect us to (yet) impress, are the ones that are least worth impressing. On the other hand those that are already impressed by us and our souls are the ones that are worth impressing… Those are the humans that inspire and encourage us to give a little more, to be better.

Build It Up video shot

Build It Up video shot