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Didn’t Know I Was Lost

“Waiting for a savior but is he really worth my faith

Waiting for a fighter but will he keep me safe?”


From a tender age little girls are saturated with the idea of marriage, whether it is by parents caregivers or the media. The Disney idea of love and relationships alone is enough to skew how women view love and marriage.

“I woke up like this”. A line made popular by diva/songstress Beyonce Via her hit number Flawless, with the little knowledge I have of the song (How it came about or what it’s about) It is the spoken (poetry) part towards the beginning of the song/video which may lead one to thinking that the number it to perhaps encourage contentment amongst women not just that but to inject independence as well as knowing that one is perfect, that one’s life can be “full” without having a “better half”. A notion that can be applied to us men just as well but we’re sitting this one out as we’ve been seen as the heads and leaders and generally stronger for centuries. As the world transitions and establishes equality between genders, most male artist would rather rap/sing about “balling” and sex whilst many females are making a stand and inspiring each other with their various crafts.

Feminism is lionized by modern society to erode and flush away the mental caveman oppression of females. The spoken part or the intro to Flawless is a sample of a society inspiring speech made by a proud Nigerian feminist Chimamanda Ngozi;


“…Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support

But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage

And we don’t teach boys the same?

We raise girls to see each other as competitors

Not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing

But for the attention of men…”




Considered a Nu Metal classic “Bring Me To Life” by Evanescence has several meanings and inspirations, Amy Lee (Evanescence frontlady) would only later reveal that the number was in fact inspired by her long-time friend and husband Josh Hartzler. With amazing Amy Lee vocals and Paul McCoy Rap-singing, the song has been compared to a lot of Linkin Park’s work but I for this post would like to compare it To “Home Safe” by Ross Jack ft Kat Vinter, though Kat Vinter delivers much calmer vocals the sentiment between both numbers seems to be consistent.

As I’ve begun this posts with the opening lyrics of Home Safe, as the song starts we develop the idea of a girl waiting to be saved by her prince charming but as the song continues things get darker. The lyrics “headfirst into traffic” give us a tragic imagery, the accompanying video confirms this tragedy as we see what appears to be a ghost bride lingering around a dark alley. When we as a society have conditioned a girl into thinking that all she needs for a happy ending is a prince charming to marry her she can sometimes sink her paws so deep into the idea that not even death can divorce her from the dream of being married… So her yearning, bleeding soul waits…



“Now that I know what I’m without

You can’t just leave me

Breathe into me and make me real

Bring me to life”


Mandela Girls


I came across a fallen tree

I felt the branches of it looking at me

Is this the place we used to love?

Is this the place that I’ve been dreaming of?

The above copy pasted words make up the second chorus of a certain song. Their flow deposits my mind into a wave of innervations much like those my conscience experienced upon a time I found myself in a physical space where I was stared down by a group of sex workers as I walked along with my tail tucked between my legs. Shrivelled on the city concrete, their roots can no longer indulge growth. Was this ever their dream? I don’t know, though I can’t help but think that perhaps once upon a time these girls had better hopes for themselves or at least their parents had better hopes for them. The question remains.

Performed and composed by English alternative rock band Keane, “Somewhere Only We Know” is the opening track of their Hopes and Fears album. The real meaning of the song’s video and lyrics remain unknown though the number could either be about a geographical space or a feeling. A traditional piano song, this number caught the world’s ear becoming one of the biggest hits of the year 2004 worldwide.

Knoting females with vilifying terms such as whore and slut, prostitution has been claimed to be the oldest profession. Yeap, it’s said to be the oldest professional way to earn what we in South Africa may refer to Randelas, Mandela money. I can’t help but ask myself, is it really the oldest profession? And when is that turning point in a female’s life… in her mind does she decide to take that path?

Oh simple thing where have you gone?

I’m getting old and I need something to rely on

So tell me when you’re gonna let me in

I’m getting tired and I need somewhere to begin

You and I can only speculate the mental and emotional leitmotif an aging sex worker goes through as she starts to lose her sex appeal… “Stuck still, no turning back…”, Perhaps this deserves a post of its own.

We may all agree that humans only preach a truth that suits them. You’ll never see a fat person preaching about how fat people should start taking their health seriously, likewise, you’ll never see a skinny human preaching about how important having a healthy body weight is. It’s so easy for a human to call another human a whore until they find themselves becoming a whore, that’s when they start seeing/finding colour in being a whore and to start finding less offensive terms to refer to what they do.

Though the “oldest profession” is most likely to be the reason why most if not all swear words have a feminine or a female undertone, women have been known to be a lot more than they were given credit for back in the 50s. Yes, men and women are equally commodious though it’s no argument that since the world has accepted this notion and for the most part advocates equality between genders, women have stepped out and done things better than us men. Originally performed by Keane, Somewhere Only We Know has been reworked/covered by a number of influential musicians though it was only when English songstress Lily Allen covered the song for the festive season back in 2013 that it became a #1 hit, making it more successful than the original version. Just another little voice showing us that our mothers, our sisters, our daughters are the real rockstars… each and every one of them; given a chance to shine.

“The role of the man is to bring the light, the role of the wife is to reveal the light”

 The artwork featured on this post is a collaboration between English contemporary artist Guy Denning and Frenchman Frank E. Rannou.

STD (Snappers Taste Dope)

A———-re yo——–u ca——–lling me dar———-ling? A——–re yo———-u ca———lling me Bi——rd?”

Taken from the bridge of “That’s Not My Name” by The Ting Ting’s 2008 hit, a snippet of this very song was used in a Coca Cola advert that got everyone talking, which brings me to the question, Am I the only human who never found their name on a Coke bottle?


“That’s Not My Name” video shot

The song itself is about a girl whose name no one seems to remember, and the line I’ve quoted above specifically reminds me of some of my friends who’ve been “involved” with girls they never bothered to remember names of, so to stray from any problems, they refer to them as “babe”, “darling” ect…

Depending on how far you want to go with it, “That’s Not My Name” may also be interpreted as a jam that suggests the reality of the lies people tell just to get into one’s pants, on the opposite side we have “Love In The Club” by Usher, unlike “That’s Not My Name”, this number tells a story of a character who doesn’t need any “Four letter word just to get (him) along”, he just wants to make love in the club, no chivalry mask. Speaking of Chivalry, for years his death had been speculated ’til Nelly Furtado confirmed (His death) from her 2006 Loose lead single, “Promiscuous Girl”, The song as well as the video share a similar nature as “Love In The Club”, yes, both videos are shot “In The Club”, Keri Hilson appears in both videos and both revolve around flirting with a mere stranger and of course a possible one night stand.


“Love In The Club” video shot

Chivalry is dead, but you’re still kinda cute


“Promiscuous Girl” video shot

Are you still there?
how did we get here?
To think that we started off with such an innocent song… Well, buckle up, I’m about to kick it up a gear.


“Part Of Me” video shot

When Chris Cornell started working with mega producer Timbaland, ahead of his 2008 3rd solo offering “Scream”, it was speculated that he would be the 1st ever rock-star to make it in the clubs, The album would later be met with mostly negative reviews… Nine Inch Nails creator Trent Reznor went to the lengths of attacking the album on twitter, condemning it as “embarrassing”… guess it’s safe to say the world prefers him (Cornell) as Audioslave/Soundgarden front-man rocker, though Scream wasn’t a total waste of time, In fact, I personally loved that album, with “Part Of Me” as one of the singles, I was sold!


“Part Of Me” video shot

It’s quite a coincident that the “Part Of Me” video has a similar setting as the other two videos I’ve mentioned here… or maybe these artists lack originality… yes, no?

The song is basically about lust, the lyrics “I want the girl but I want a lot, might cross my mind but that’s where it stops” suggest this, as Cornell explains to an established lover that “I swear it never meant a thing, she was just a fling… There’s no other women who does it like you


“Part Of Me” video shot

Commitment issues are also expressed in this number as Cornell sings “I want the girl, but not what she’s going through


“Part Of Me” video shot

Though Cornell’s attempt to get into clubs didn’t get much commercial glory, “Nashville royalty”, The Kings Of Leon earned their 1st number one hit when “Sex On Fire” dominated various charts that very same year, but what is “Sex On Fire” really about?


“Sex On Fire” video shot

Many have misinterpreted this Kings Of Leon hit as being about STDs, mostly because of the title, how the hell can sex be “On Fire” unless it’s burning (where ever that burn may be), well, at least that’s their logic… there’s more, some even sing the song as “you(in an elongated scream, this is correct though this time it is to suggest pain), your sex is on fire, and so were the warts to transpire…”


“Sex On Fire” video shot

We’ve all misinterpreted or misheard lyrics at some point, yes some of it is intentional (we reword songs just to amuse ourselves, hell we spend hours online watching song parodies)though most of the time it sprouts from innocent mistakes.

When I first pondered about this subject, none other than Weird Al Yonkovic came to mind as he is known for his hit parodies, “Perform This Way”, “Constipated”, “Smells Like Nirvana” just to name a few…


“Tonight” video shot

Continuing with our night out vibes, “Tonight” by FUN. is clearly about letting loose and of course, being young and wild, as they sing about setting the world on fire, it all seems jolly ’til you start paying attention to the verses, “I  know I gave it to you months ago, I know you’re trying to forget, but between the drinks and subtle things, the holes in my apologies… Now I know that I’m not all that you got
What is “It” that he gave his significant other? an STD? yes? maybe? no?
I honestly wouldn’t be surprised after all that burning and carrying each other home, but, that’s just me.
The song is still currently the last rock song to make it to #1 on the Billboard Hot 100… rockers better start writing songs about treatment, we need another Hot 100 #1!


“Tonight” video shot

The line “An earthquake to a girls guitar, that’s just another good vibration” in Californication by The Red Hot Chili Peppers always reminds me of how we are all aware of the “natural disasters” of this world, yet sisters still don’t take the initiative to protect themselves, well, most of them don’t, instead they rely on brothers to take care of that admin. If the male doesn’t, well, as the song goes, that’s just another good vibration, they’ll deal with everything else later.

Yes, We’re in this together, but women, BE the captains of your own journeys, advocate your own safety, take care of yourselves, invest in your own protection supplies.